Females Forever


Us females are the future. If only we knew it and more importantly; if only we acted like it. This post is coming off the back of a lot of controversy that has been happening in the Blogosphere lately. From so called "witch hunts" to "online bullying" that have been rife on Twitter and Instagram, I felt like I had to say something. I personally think the whole thing is ridiculous. Who really has time to be hating on the next female when you're way too busy doing your own thing? I just think that people's attitudes need a bit of a sprucing up for 2017 and beyond. We all need to consider whether our actions are helping or hindering the blogging industry and take some responsibility. Not just for ourselves but for those around us as well.

It's hard enough with the scene already being so saturated but when you add the bitchiness and mob mentality that emerges when people disagree with someone's opinion, it's damn right off-putting. I've never been one to shy away from an argument or debate and in all honesty, I think such conversations are healthy and needed but it's all in the delivery. I do not condone people banding together to tear down another person no matter how passionately they feel about the topic. I don't think anyone deserves that. Disagree all you want to but do so in a manner that is not destructive to people, their brands and everything they've worked so hard for.

T-shirt - New Look (similar)
Jeans - New Look
Bag - Glamorous via ASOS
*Shoes - Just Fab UK
Watch - Sekonda

I also feel that us females and people in general need to stick up for each other. This is the only way that we will progress and protect the industry we have carved out for ourselves. If we let people just run havoc all over the internet it will hurt us all in the long run. By sticking up for each other I don't mean we should all start trolling the trolls. I think that when someone is conducting themselves in a way which is just plain wrong we should call them out on it. Especially when they wear the same blogger or influencer badge that we do. I for one know that I have been a spectator to a lot of the bullshit going on lately. My usual approach is to read it and think "this is none of my business" and carry on with my day. I'm beginning to realise that I cannot be this passive. I can do more to stand up for people when I see them being attacked and bombarded by hate. The reality is that it can happen to anyone, including myself and I need to take more responsibility.

What I'm trying to say is that this blogging industry is amazing. It's innovative, it's progressive and inclusive and we should aim to protect it. Especially us females because we do dominate the industry and we have the keys to it's survival in our hands. I challenge us all to exercise a lot more tolerance of our differences in opinions and the way we choose to express our creativity. One size does not fit all in this space and that is the beauty of it. We can all be successful and happy if we just do our own thing and let others do theirs. Let's not get caught up in what separates us but instead lets celebrate what unites us; our passion for being creative and sharing what we do with others. So let's get our Spice Girls #GirlPower on and uplift and protect each other from those trying to ruin the party for everyone!

Photos by Taylor Ivanna


Alisha Dandy says:

Love this blogpost dear, so important that you’re addressing this. Looking lovely as per! x


tashpantz says:

Thanks hun and glad you enjoyed the blog x

Charnelle says:

Great post as always hun! A good read. Also a big fan of those jeans! Your bag is adorable as well 🙂 xx

tashpantz says:

Thanks doll x

Lavinya says:

Well said. I think sometimes the dragging culture can be quite bandwagonish and easy to become a part of especially on twitter. However sometimes I do think as influencers we have a responsibility to think before we talk, tweet etc otherwise you do leave yourself open to criticism. I suppose sometimes it’s not what’s said but how you say it. Regardless I think all anyone can do is be accountable for themselves & for this community we all aspire to progress in because if we tear it down ourselves then there is no one else to blame – x

Lavinya Royes – Fashion & Lifestyle Blog

tashpantz says:

I absolutely agree that we also need to think before we speak especially on the internet. I think at times people make comments and don’t realise the weight the comment carries and then have to do damage control. It’s a catch 22 because people should be able to say what they want without fear but at the same time it’s not their first rodeo so really should know what to expect by now. Thanks for reading Hun x

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