It's so good to be back home! Zambia was great and even though I would probably go back in a heartbeat to escape this cold, it's so good to be back home. I missed my boo and my little sister so much and I missed my normal routine and just being consistent with the blog. I'm so grateful for all you guys who have stayed loyal and supported me even when content was scarce. Y'all are the real MVPs and the reason I'm now on 10K followers on Instagram*does happy dance*. It feels like quite an achievement that 10K people give a damn about what I post on my Instagram. I don't take it for granted and I really do appreciate you guys. I will definitely be commemorating reaching 10K with a giveaway in the new year to say thank you to you for being so dope and so amazing. Make sure you're following me on Instagram to hear all the details and take part. It's going to be a good giveaway that you don't want to miss out on.
Now that we've got that out of the way, I'm going to shift gears a little bit and talk about something else that's been on my mind about the blogging industry and why I don't f*&!k with fellow bloggers. I'll start by saying that the industry is great and full of great people, some of whom I'm lucky enough to call real friends (shout out to Taylor, Ting, Tasha and the rest of my real blogging massive brap brap brap!!!). I not only talk to this handful of girls about blogging, the industry we're all in and love but I can also share life stuff with them and just have a good ol' chin wag about a variety of other things, you know? However, with that being said everything has a flip-side and this industry is no different. I've encountered many different people within the blogging industry. I've met the good the bad and the downright ugly (figuaratively speaking) so I'm going to share a few things that I've experienced and noticed within the industry that I can't stand and that has deterred me from messing with fellow bloggers.
Now I know blogging is essentially putting certain aspects of your life online and basically showcasing yourself, your style, your life and your personality right? Well I thought that too until I discovered that half these babes don't live the lives they show you online and don't have the personalities they portray either. Fair enough if you don't want to give everything away and show everything about yourself online but fabricating an entirely different life and portraying yourself as something that you're not is downright wrong and exploitative of the people who follow you based on the lie you portray. These are the same types of girls who swear they love and support you to your face but bitch about you once your back is turned. I personally can't mess with babes like this because I'm allergic to fakeness and once I see that a person isn't who they claim to be I skrrrrrrr and exit stage left!
2. SOCIAL CLIMBERS
Social climbers are also another breed of blogger babes that I can't stomach. You know the types; the ones that only hang around a certain calibre of blogger whether it be based on the lifestyle that blogger lives or the amount of followers that blogger has. I know the saying goes surround yourself with people who inspire you and motivate you but I think some of these babes hang around with those people they can leech of off and get some shine off.
They don't pick their friends based on a true and genuine like of a person but based on how a friendship with that person will allow them to benefit. They essentially want to use their shoulders to climb up the social ladder which I think is so whack and lazy. Whatever happened to working for what you want and where you want to be? I also hate that people like this reinforce the negative stereotype of bloggers being shallow. Now listen, I believe in learning and surrounding yourself with people that teach and inspire you but I do not believe in using people for their social standing and trying to elevate yourself off the hard work and popularity of someone else. That is the lowest of the low and believe you me, I know some bloggers that would trample their own grandmother to get to the top of the social ladder. I personally can't entertain these types of antics because I believe in hard work and grind and in working hard for what you want and where you want to be in life. Don't get me wrong you can seek help and advice from those that have been there and done that and those that are where you aspire to be but to blatantly use someone and not rely on your own hard work and talent is pretty downright dirty and I just can't deal with people like that. And that goes for any area of life not just in blogging.
Haters are gon' hate and boy do they HATE! These are the bloggers that hate on other bloggers that are doing well for themselves. They try to discredit what that blogger is doing or has achieved and try to rally people to get on their bandwagon. Sadly these are not the only breed of "hater blogger", there is another breed that hates on even their own so called friends within the blogging industry. I call these the bloggers "that want to see you do good but not better than them". This is one of the main reasons I find it extremely difficult to connect with bloggers and form solid freindships within the blogging world. I'm used to my friends being supportive and celebrating me when I do well and I can't deal with secret haters let alone within my own friendship circles. Anyone that knows me knows that If there's an opportunity or gig I think a fellow blogger could ace and get on I'm going to share that opportunity with you or put you in contact with the brand so that we can win together. I don't believe that helping someone else will take away from what I'm doing and where I'm going so for me there's no reason to hate and withhold knowledge, information and likes on Instagram.
I love to see other people win and I am so secure in my own talent and work ethic that I don't have to be threatened by someone else's success. We're all on very different journeys in this world and even in our chosen careers and we all don't start and end the same. We can and definitely should help, uplift and empower each other along the way and I promise you, you won't losing anything. In fact you'll gain much more. You gain the respect and admiration of your peers when you're someone who genuinely supports and helps other people and trust me when the time comes for them to help you, you won't be forgotten.
My advice to fellow bloggers and to whoever this post may relate to is that if you have a friend, acquaintance or colleague who you think is a down low hater, a social climber or a pretender; distance yourself from them. Surround yourselves with positive people and with friends that are not just using you, that are not fake and that want to see you win whether or not your success surpasses their own. Not only will you grow within whatever industry you're in but the friendships that you do make will be solid and uplifting! So do yourselves a favour and drop the haters because as I said haters gon' do what they do which is HATE.
Let me know if you've ever experienced any of the things I've mentioned in today's post within your field of work or within your friendship circles. How did you deal with it? Sending you lots of love xx