As far as years go, 2017 wasn't bad. It was actually one of the best years I've had in a long time. Of course it was not all roses and rainbows and like every year there were some great highs and some very low lows but all in all it wasn't too shabby at all. I really do have a hell of a lot to be grateful for and as the year draws to a close and I reflect; it's becoming all the more clearer. This is a cliche post I know, I know and usually I do try to steer clear from these types of posts but I thought 2017 deserved a special nod. You know, a well done 2017 you didn't completely f*&!k me over like previous years.
It was a year of fresh starts and new beginnings as well as a year where I had to delve deep and reflect on some past stuff that I didn't even know I hadn't confronted. It was a year where I felt like a proper adult after 27 years on this wonderful earth and it was a year where I actually had to start planning for the future. Like proper planning. Proper adult stuff I tell ya. I could probably write 27 great things that happened this year without a doubt but in the interest of not deterring you from returning to my blog I thought I'd keep it short and sweet and share the 3 most significant things that happened.
Yes yes your eyes are not deceiving you; there's actually someone out there dumb enough to marry me and he asked and I said yes! If you follow me on social media then this isn't news to you but yes I officially became a fiance on the 9th of July 2017. I know I've never shared how it all happened and don't get excited because I won't. Not yet anyway but what I will say is that it was a great day. It was an emotional one and I'm pretty sure I ruined what Marcus had planned initially but after a few odd events and me thinking "what's wrong with him?" he got down on one knee and asked me and the rest is history.
Who would have thought it huh? Definitely not me I tell you that for sure! I of course knew that we had gone over that two year relationship mark and were making plans for the future and that our relationship was naturally heading towards the marriage junction but I guess thinking something and it actually happening is something different and not something you can 100% prepare for. I certainly wasn't 100% prepared for it as well as all the "when are you getting married?" and "have you set a date yet?" questions that came with it.
Needless to say, it's been a few months and our heads are well and truly wrapped around the idea of us being Mr & Mrs. We've even set a date which we'll be keeping to ourselves for a while longer but yes we've made a small (tiny, minute, miniscule) start on our wedding plans and you can all look forward to some 2019 nuptials. I know some people's hearts just sank right there because you were all expecting a 2018 wedding extravaganza but you'll just have to be patient with us. You see this new adulting thing I'm doing is telling me that I have to be real with myself and that I'm not going to achieve the day I want with all the other things on my list if I try to have a wedding in 2018. I mentioned before in my previous post that moving out of my family home and having a home of our own is the priority right now so the wedding is taking a back seat to that. We will start our planning next year however to make sure we take our time and have the day we envision so don't fret; you'll be seeing plenty of wedding related stuff in 2018 (as much as I can share anyway) but you won't get an actual wedding so dry your eyes mate.
I also got baptised on the 9th of July 2017 (because apparently one significant event a day just isn't enough). I had spent a very long time going back and forth on whether or not to do it and on the day I nearly talked myself out of it. This is because at my church when you get baptised you spend a little bit of time talking to the congregation about yourself and what's brought you to the point where you're finally ready to get baptised. My reasons were varied but a huge part of me finally getting baptised was confronting some of the stuff that had happened to me as a child that I never really got over but rather masked with this "independent woman that don't need no one" armour.
I lost my mum when I was 11 and never really grieved. Not to make this story even more bleak but I also lost my dad a few years later and sadly at the time didn't have any feelings towards it because me and him never really had a relationship. These were just a couple of the reasons that led me to getting baptised but were by far the most significant because I guess when I lost my parents at points in my life where I really needed them it kind of forced me into this space where I felt like I had to depend on myself and no one else. This attitude fed into my relationships with other people and even into my relationship with God and basically made me into the biggest control freak ever.
Up until this year not a lot of people besides family and really close friends knew that I lost my parents and I never intended for it to be some kind of secret but I just didn't want people to feel sorry for me and I just didn't feel safe enough to share something so personal with people who didn't have to know. Well at least that's what I thought until I had to openly talk about it to people who's perception of me was probably very different to what they saw that day. I'm glad I spoke about it and that I finally felt safe enough to share a piece of myself that was more vulnerable. That experience alone has changed my whole life in a massive way because now I don't have to walk around with this armour all the time and I can let my guard down fully with the people in my life and most importantly with God. I know this religion stuff isn't for everyone but I hope that in me sharing this little piece of information about myself I can help someone confront similar issues in their life that they've been avoiding to face to their own detriment. It's amazing how the God/the universe works because on the very day I decided to let go of old baggage that I didn't even realise I was carrying around; I got a new beginning and got engaged. Won't he do it?!
I moved to England at the age of 15 in 2005 and I hadn't been back to my home country till August of this year. It was something I had always wanted to do but for one reason or another couldn't. I finally went back to visit this year with my fiance in tow and we had the most amazing time. I really had no idea what to expect after being away for so many years but home is home and it was good to be HOME. It was great to see my family and my childhood friends and it was even more special because I got to experience it with Marcus who absolutely loved it. He only stayed for two and half weeks but clearly I was having the time of my life because I ended up staying for just under 4 months.
I really did have the best time and lived my best life there. I got to explore the blogging scene there and attend some awesome events, I got to enjoy actual heat and sunshine everyday, I got to see the Victoria falls for the second time and do some things people only dream of like go on safari and stay in a hotel that was right in the middle of a national park. I also went out clubbing loads (which if you know me you'll know I never do) and didn't take myself too seriously and by far the most amazing thing was seeing my family after so many years especially my grandad who turned 95 this year.I'm sure I irritated a lot of people with my poolside pics while you guys were freezing here in England (sorry not sorry) but if it makes you feel any better I'm back right here freezing with you now. It was so good to share my trip via good old social media and I was so happy that a lot of you thought my country was beautiful and wanted to visit. It's definitely not all kids with flies round their mouths and requests for £2 a month like the media depicts. Not to say things like that don't exist becaue trust me they do but it was good to share another side of it. Especially with people who never considered Africa (THE REAL AFRICA) as a holiday destination.
I really made some awesome memories and made even more amazing friends and I can't wait to go back. I don't know when I'll be going back next but I do know I won't be leaving it another 12 years. Who's coming with me?
I really hope you guys enjoyed this post and enjoyed getting to know some personal things about me that you didn't know before today. I also hope that you can equally look back on 2017 and be able to list many great things that have happened to you this year. I must admit, I found writing this post quite therapeutic and I feel all ready and prepared for 2018 and all the amazing things it has to offer. Hopefully at the end of next year I can write a similar post with more amazing life events.